Taiwanese internet celebrity 77's monologue about being single, along with some advice he gives to single women, is itself quite reasonable.

But Cat Brother wants to say a word:
Cat Brother has some different views and a deeper interpretation.

Because to be honest, this video - it doesn't go deep enough.

Let me start with something that may not sound very pleasant:
Some people really don't deserve to have an intimate relationship.

Why do you say that?
Don't worry, Cat Brother will explain slowly to you.

Whether you are single or in a relationship;
Whether you are a boy or a girl —

There is something that must be done:
You have to live "a person's life" well first.

You need to be able to live well on your own,

A person can also feel happy,

Take good care of yourself —
Not just on the level of life, but also on the level of emotions and inner coherence.

Only such people,
is more suitable and more likely,
Meet a true partner who can bring you happiness.

Conversely,
If you are still not mature yourself,
Need others to take care of you and fill you in;
If you are looking for a partner just because you are afraid of being alone -

The cat brother said directly:
You are not suitable for being in a relationship.
It is also almost impossible to find a partner that truly suits you.

Brother Cat said this is not a theory, it's a personal experience.
I once had a girlfriend,
She is very afraid of loneliness.
So I hope that after I finish being busy every day, I must go accompany her.

Of course, everything was great at the beginning during the sweet period.
(To be honest, all relationships are wonderful during the sweet phase.)
But once the sweet period is over, problems begin to arise:
Arguments, quarrels, and pulling each other, increasing each time.

In the end, we still broke up.
It's not that I don't love you anymore,

Instead, the love in the relationship has been gradually consumed clean.

Why is this happening?

There is only one core reason:

Immature people lack a sense of boundaries.

In the relationship, you are always the one who "takes."
rather than the one that "gives".

In the short term, this is indeed not a problem:

It feels fresh and also makes people find it cute.

But you must understand —

Your "needs" are essentially asking the other party to change for you.

In emotions,

The biggest killer is trying to change the other person into the way you want them to be.

In the end, no matter the outcome, the conclusion will not be good.

If the other person really changed because of you,

You may feel bored and annoyed.

In the end, we will still break up.

If the other party does not change,

And you are still constantly asking and pulling.

Then you will continue to have internal strife.

The outcome is still a breakup.

So Cat Brother wants to say something very important:

A person, regardless of gender,

If you want to have a good romance, a healthy relationship,

Learn to be alone first, learn to love yourself first. Because you can love yourself enough, only then do you have surplus love to give to others.

You need to be able to live independently,

And live life well.

Only such people are truly suitable for dating. To have a relationship.

A truly good relationship nourishes you.

In simple terms:

Two people together,

will make you feel that life is more hopeful,

Days are brighter, more stable, and more solid.

instead of arguing pathologically at home every day,

Love and hate each other, that kind of pathological attachment will eventually come to an end one day because one person can no longer bear it.

and will make life, which is already not easy,

It's a complete mess.

The Taiwanese influencer 77 Lao Da’s monologue about being single, as well as his advice to single women, does make sense.

But I want to say this:
I have a different perspective—and a deeper interpretation.

To be honest, that video doesn’t go deep enough.
Let me say something that might not sound very pleasant at first:

Some people are simply not ready—or qualified—to be in an intimate relationship.

Why do I say that?
Don’t worry, let me explain slowly.

Whether you are single or already in a relationship,
whether you are a man or a woman—
There is one thing you must do first:

You have to learn how to live your life well on your own.
You should be able to live well alone,
feel happy on your own,

and take good care of yourself—

Not only in daily life,

but also emotionally and internally, with real self-alignment and stability.

Only people like this
are truly more likely
to meet a partner who can bring them genuine happiness.
On the other hand,

if you are still emotionally immature,
if you constantly need someone else to take care of you or fill your emptiness;

if you look for a partner simply because you are afraid of being alone—

Then I’ll be very direct:

You are not suitable for a relationship,
and it will be extremely difficult for you to find a truly compatible partner.

This isn’t theory—it’s personal experience.
I once had an ex-girlfriend

who was deeply afraid of being alone.
She expected me to be with her every day after I finished work.

Of course, at the beginning—during the honeymoon phase—everything felt great.

To be honest, every relationship feels good during the honeymoon phase.

But once that phase passed, problems started to surface:

arguments, conflicts, emotional tug-of-war—again and again.
In the end, we broke up.

Not because we didn’t love each other anymore,
but because the love in the relationship
had been slowly worn away.

Why did this happen?
There is only one core reason:
Immature people lack boundaries.

In a relationship,
they are always the one who “asks” or “takes,”
rather than the one who gives.

In the short term, this doesn’t seem like a big problem.
There’s novelty, and it can even feel cute.
But you need to understand this:

Your “needs” are, in essence,
demands for the other person to change for you.
And in relationships,

the biggest killer is trying to reshape someone into the person you want them to be.

No matter how it turns out,
the ending is rarely a good one.

If your partner actually changes to meet your expectations,

you’ll eventually feel bored, dissatisfied, and leave.
If they don’t change,

and you keep pushing, demanding, and pulling,
both of you will fall into constant emotional exhaustion—

And the relationship will still end.

So here is the most important thing I want to say:

No matter your gender,

if you want a healthy, fulfilling relationship,
you must first learn how to be alone and how to love yourself.

Because only when you truly love yourself
will you have surplus love to give to someone else.
You must be able to live independently
and live well.

Only then are you truly ready
to enter a relationship.

A genuinely good relationship should nourish you.

Simply put:

Being together should make life feel more hopeful,
brighter, steadier, and more grounded.

Not a life filled with constant, unhealthy arguments at home;

not a toxic, love–hate dynamic,
or a pathological form of attachment

that will eventually end because one person can no longer endure it.

Otherwise, you end up turning an already difficult life
into complete chaos.