That child who makes you lose your temper is actually the most important Bodhisattva in your life. This little Bodhisattva may seem to come to torment you, but in fact, he is there to give you a blood transfusion. The first lesson he teaches you is unconditional trust. As adults, we weigh pros and cons in our world, but for children, you are their entire world. After you scold him, no matter how aggrieved you feel inside, as long as you open your arms, he will still run towards you unwaveringly. This is the innocence of a child’s heart, using this clumsy way to tell you that love is to give, not to get back. The second lesson he teaches you is to let go of yourself. Your anxiety, anger, and frustration are not because the child has a problem, but because there is fear in your heart. You fear he will lose, slow down, or not be as good as others. The child uses various non-cooperative behaviors to precisely break your control desire, pushing you to learn one thing: accept impermanence. Accept ordinariness, accept the present moment. True education is not about you being the hammer and him the nail, but about him being a seed and you being the soil. Don’t just focus on his shortcomings; that’s to illuminate the blind spots in your character. Cherish this time that makes you so angry you almost die. Every time you hold back from losing your temper, you grow a little. Every time you practice perspective-taking, you become a little more enlightened. In the name of raising children, re-educate yourself. When you become better, the child will naturally become better.