Change these three bad talking habits, and your aura can instantly crush 99% of your peers. Sounds tempting, right? If every time you speak, you’re saying “I think,” “I feel,” “maybe,” or “this and that,” then it’s recommended that you shut up first because you are personally dragging down your own value. Why do you do the most but have the least presence? Why does the boss always play with his phone when you speak in meetings? The reason, after all, is simple: you are speaking with a “worker mentality.” True experts communicate by “interpreting logic.” Even if you only learn one of these three points, your aura can soar instantly.

Point 1: Delete all “weakling vocabulary.” Ordinary people talk to please others; experts speak to lead. Starting today: no more saying “I think this plan is feasible,” say “Based on data, this is the optimal strategy so far.” No more saying “I feel this might go wrong,” say “To avoid risks, we need to take these three steps.” Remove “I think,” remove “maybe,” remove all uncertainty. When you speak with the conviction of a leader, others will naturally follow like followers.

Point 2: Put away your cheap emotions. Remember a harsh truth: the more emotional you are, the lower your IQ drops. The fastest type of person to die in the workplace is the “toothpick personality”—if someone says something unpleasant, they argue back; if not, they fall apart instantly—hard and brittle, break at the slightest bend. True masters are “grass leaf personalities.” When facing pressure and attacks: I don’t hard-stand, I let it pass through me; I bend, but I don’t break; when the wind passes, I bounce back immediately, unscathed. This isn’t weakness, it’s maintaining absolute core stability in this hostile world. When you are steady, you will definitely win.

Point 3: Learn to bring the plane down smoothly. Many people beat around the bush during reports, flying around in the sky, making the boss’s face turn dark, and you’re still padding the message. Confident people never talk nonsense. Like flying a plane—aim at the runway and land directly. If you need to fire someone—state the result directly, don’t say “Well, you’re actually doing pretty well, and I find it hard to decide...” If you need to make a request—state the purpose directly, don’t pad for five minutes. Remember: over-explaining is a sign of guilt. You are here to solve problems, not to seek psychological comfort. Lastly: give yourself a physical boost—open your shoulders, straighten your back, and amplify your voice twofold. Even pretending to be confident makes your brain believe you truly are. The future you will never be someone who stammers or dares not raise their voice. Since that’s your future self, why not start playing that role now?

Come on, let’s become more confident together.