Some thoughts:

It is necessary to distinguish between the goodness of actions, the goodness of feelings, and the goodness of structures. Neither the goodness of actions nor the goodness of feelings can confirm the existence of goodness, because the pleasure derived from actions and feelings can often manifest as conformity and manipulation, which are certainly not sufficient conditions for proving goodness. Any specific action can be falsified as non-good within a broader relational context.

Therefore, the judgment of goodness in speech and behavior is unidirectional: we can identify signals and structures that deviate from goodness through words, actions, and feelings, but we cannot confirm the realization of goodness based solely on them.

Thus, the necessary condition for goodness is not the goodness of emotions or behaviors, but the non-harmful and non-dominating nature of the structure. Whether it is sadness in feelings or separation in actions, as long as a relationship does not lead to domination, manipulation, or harm, but instead promotes the freedom and growth of life, we have reason to define that this relationship has achieved goodness.